Heal your soul, honor your loved one, and learn to live again.
After experiencing "Holy Shifts," the death of my spouse Sean, losing my home, filing bankruptcy, broken relatively and figuratively. Filled with grief. I was depressed, scared, angry, afraid, lost, and alone. I was feeling dead inside, going through the motion of life but not living fully. Then I experienced a powerful impact paradigm, "Holy Shift," that shook me to my core. I discovered tools to shift to an upward trajectory, out of the pain and suffering to a tipping point of awakened conscious awareness. In my book Holy Shift I open up and share my Near Death Experience, Heaven, Angels, and my unforgettable experience that changed my life.
Take a moment to marvel at life—any grief that softened you, any heartache that wisened you, and any suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, we still grow.
If you choose early on to focus on love and no grief, it's better. You will have more good days than bad days. I had so many beautiful people that came to help, many made meals, watched my children, cleaned my house, did yard work, hung Christmas lights, and performed many small acts of kindness; many friend and neighbors came forward and offered assistance. I had so much love around the kids and me; the outpouring of love was incredible. I'm so grateful for that.
Move towards what scares you, face your fears. Have courage and faith. Clarity is the halfway point between your greatest hope and your deepest fear.
At the end of life, what really matters is not what we bought but what we built, not what we got but what we shared, not our competence but our character; and not our success, but our significance. Live a life that matters. Live a life of love. - Tracy xo
I had to retrain my brain. I had a lot of negative thoughts. When I was in my funky place of depression, my mind would tell me to oversleep, not eat, drink whiskey, bitch, and moan or give up. I felt so numb. These days I would try to upgrade my mood, quiet my mind, and be kind to myself. On the bad, bad days, it would be okay wearing my PJs and chilling with the cat. Asking why is life so hard? And ya life is hard when trying to decipher tax code, doing math, or continue drifting along while dodging those pesky telemarketing calls from unknown numbers while watching the phone ring. Seek safe support of someone who understands. Like asking the magic eight balls if you should quit your job? Find someone who loves you unconditionally, like your grandma.
If you are weary from depression, try challenging your next dark void. Try one of these suggestions, even if for 5 minutes. Hang onto hope. Practice self-love every day. Often depression feeds on itself. When we are depressed, it is hard to find the motivation and energy to feed our spirits. Find what feeds your spirit. Keep your awareness up and notice the things that fill your spirit to charge your soul and body battery. We all experience sad or challenging chapters in our lives. Suppose we can shift our mind, then everything shifts. I wish this is the part where I offer you an all-expense-paid trip to the Bahamas or a new inflatable unicorn float bed for a day at the lake with your bestie. - Tracy XO